My daughter, who is normally the leader on the court and very confident with the ball, has recently been very timid on offense, passes the ball away quickly and shies away from the point position. Her defense is great and she has many steals, but has yet to show her skills on offense. I had to ask her about it and what is going on. She feels very nervous that she is going to mess up and is feeling less confident with her abilities. She is also very sensitive to the fact that she is the shortest one on her team. Her words, "It's different not being the best player on the court".
She has gone from a small local Y league where she has always been the best dribbler on her team and maybe even out of all the players, to now being average. She is average on her team and average among the players that she's playing against.
I'm not sure why this is bothering her now because she has been to basketball camps where all different kids of all abilities come for a week last summer. She still managed to remain confident and show her skills there, earning awards at both camps she went to. She also played with this group in the fall. I'm hoping this is something she just has to work through. We still have 6 more weeks of AAU, so there is plenty of time for growth here.
My question to you is: Is it better to be a big fish in a little pond or a little fish in a big pond?
At her little local Y, she was the big fish. Was she improving her skills and being challenged there? No, probably not. But she had confidence in herself and her abilities. In this league she is a little fish. She is definitely being challenged and learning how to play better, but has less confidence in herself.
I guess the answer is both. You need a balance of both, right? You need to be challenged in order to become better but you also need to play at a level where you have confidence too.
I'm hoping she gets past this and becomes a medium-sized fish in a big pond. :)
What say you?
Big fish in a little pond or little fish in a big pond?